One’s
General Cardiovascular Health
The
arteries in the penis, which enable you to have an erection, reflect the health of your larger vascular system. Lab tests
for such elements as C reactive protein, and cholesterol, or for diseases such as diabetes, can determine if these factors
are contributing to your problem. (There are also neurological causes of impotence as well, but these are relatively rare.
Do the post-it test.
While
speaking of labs and doctors, you should know that commonly prescribed medicines such as Prozac and Paxil and hypertension
medications often have the side effect of dulling your libido. Be sure to talk with your doctor about any medicines you are
taking. Read the inserts that come with your medicine as well, or talk to your pharmacist.
Erectile
Dysfunction – The Interpersonal Side of Things
Talking
only about doctors and pills, and considering the penis as a mere anatomical contraption, can be depressing. It also may not tell the whole story. It can lead one to ignore some basic facts of lovemaking (which is
why we’re talking about ED in the first place) that can get lost in today’s hurried world. Though I can only,
unfortunately, offer you a list, I urge you to reflect on the deep implications of these words. Simple words suggest huge
vistas of possibility. They could well be the simple keys you need to recover your “misplaced” capacity.
· Relax. Take your time. Enjoy yourself.
· Be sure your partner accepts and cares for you.
· Be sure you accept and care for your partner (!)
· Get to the bottom of whatever power issues are intruding into the bedroom.
· Give the alcohol and nicotine a break. Both ultimately depress and deplete you. Take up to 375 mg. of Niacin, or eat
some dark chocolate.
· Go slow. Don’t worry about the destination; enjoy the journey. This means massage, touching, sincere and caring
talk... it can mean such romantic things as candles and soft music. Remember that “romantic” does not necessarily
mean “sexual!” You might even just forget about the goal of orgasm, or even of intercourse per se. Sex is only
the highest and subtlest form of communication between a man and woman. Focus on the lower steps of communication. Get them
right – for their own sake – they matter! You may find yourself pleasantly surprised to find they lead you to
the highest step.
Food
for Thought
I
often wonder why women seem so interested in the psychology of being a woman, while men often seem to take their masculinity
for granted. Sometimes a problem can be a great opportunity, a time when positive changes come knocking at one’s door
in seemingly negative fashion. Books can be thought provoking and inspiring. Here are a few:
Iron
John, by Robert Bly. This huge bestseller broke new ground in men’s exploration of their own masculine psychology. It
was so popular because it so clearly and poetically spoke new truths men have come to in our own time.
Phallos,
by Eugene Monick
Castration
and Male Rage: The Phallic Wound, by Eugene Monick
Eugene
Monick is a minister and Jungian analyst who wrote two books that also explore men’s issues in ways that are frank,
thought-provoking, and inspiring.
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For more information click here for Prosperon, how to
order and for my erectyle dysfunction (ED) checklist.
Warmly Pieternel.
www.pieternel.com
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